Restore your hope and faith in a God who cares.


Learn to get curious about your emotions and why you react so you can discover constructive ways to deal with stressful circumstances and relationships.


Practice personal responsibility while letting go of what you can’t control.


Coaching is an action-oriented partnership that, unlike psychotherapy which delves into patterns of the past, concentrates on where you are today and how you can reach your goals.” – Time Magazine
Part therapist, part consultant, part motivational expert, part professional organizer, part friend, part nag – the personal coach seeks to do for your life what a personal trainer does for your body.” – Minneapolis-St. Paul Star-Tribune

Hi, my name is Natalie Hoffman. I’m a writer, business owner, and life coach for women of faith desiring to heal from emotional and/or spiritual abuse. I’ve worked with women of all ages, divorced, single, married, and separated. I’ve coached teachers, doctors, homemakers, and entrepreneurs. As a fellow survivor of a 25-year long emotionally and spiritual abusive marriage (now remarried to an emotionally healthy and supportive man), I bring personal experience, empathy, and insight to the table. I love helping women find healing and hope after years of chronic emotional abuse, and I’m honored to work with courageous people ready to do the internal work necessary to go from crawling to flying. Your time spent with me will give you results that will change your life and get you moving in a healthier direction.


  • A welcome packet with questions and exercises to help you pinpoint the exact areas you need help with.
  • Each session includes a one-hour phone call with me (Natalie).
  • After your phone call, you will receive an email with a summary of what we discussed along with the action steps you’ll be working on before our next session.
  • When you coach with me, you WILL see movement in your life. No wasted time or money. That’s my commitment to you.
  • You’ll have access to me via email/text in between sessions to troubleshoot small issues on the fly. My clients are my priority.


Natalie’s coaching has been a god-send. Surviving and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse is the most difficult thing I’ve ever done! With her inspiring and direct style, Natalie is teaching me how to take back control of my life. The decisions you make during this time can have far reaching impact and her wise counsel has helped me navigate my separation and upcoming divorce with exceptional peace and clarity. I can’t say enough about the life affirming and transformational impact working one on one with Natalie has been. The best investment I’ve ever made!


Beginning my coaching time with Natalie I was still awakening and seeking validation for my experiences in my toxic marriage. Natalie’s openness with her own toxic marriage really helped me identify and validate my own situation. I recognized and understood that I was still holding on to the idea of “if I could just have my husband get it” he would change.
As I have gotten stronger, the more boundaries I have set, the more I’ve recognized the different crazy making tactics my husband uses against me.  With Natalie’s help, I realized that all my efforts to “make my husband get it” was only giving him ammunition for his crazy making/ abuse. I committed to praying that God would reveal my husbands heart, and he has. Natalie has been a huge encouragement! She has helped me with resources to prepare myself for the next phase. I’m waiting on God to say go, but I will be prepared for that jump, thanks to Natalie.

I was so encouraged by Natalie’s blog that when I discovered she was taking on coaching clients I jumped on that opportunity! I had done group teaching and counseling but never one-on-one coaching. I was struggling in my marriage, not because of continual emotional abuse, but because my husband of 22 years was repentant and trying to salvage our marriage.  I know it is very rare for  an abuser to be  truly repentant, which made me very suspect and caused quite a bit of  trauma, tears, and pleading prayers. The road to healing was/is still a very painful path at times. Because I was still learning to feel again, trust my own thoughts, and navigate what a “healthy”  marriage should look like, having Natalie there to help me along was priceless.

Natalie is a woman who loves God.  She understands those of us who have been abused, belittled, ignored, judged as crazy, and left in the shadows of hopelessness. Coaching time with her encouraged me, helped me sort out feelings,  hold my thoughts to  the light of God’s truths concerning me,  and allowed me to begin to love and be kind to myself. Because I didn’t have to convince her or explain the pain and heartache that more than two decades of abuse caused, we were able to cover a lot of ground and I believe my growth was exponential. Natalie was an answer to prayer and a fellow traveler on my journey towards healing.


When I had coaching with Natalie, she described me as sitting on a cliff. I wasn’t quite ready to jump off, to leave my husband. That word picture helped me. I knew I needed to “jump” off the cliff. She asked me to write in my journal who my husband really is, not who I want him to be. This made it clear about my magical thinking- my husband is who he is, and I was not important in his life. I couldn’t stay with someone who was not invested or interested in me. She had me write the fears that kept me in the relationship, and that list was short. This also made it clear to me what I needed to do.

She gave me practical examples of how to interact with my husband, someone who did not act like he cared for me. I learned how to be transactional only in my conversations with him. One of the neatest things she said to me was that it was like I was labor, and I should let the process carry me through. When the baby comes with the last contraction, I would see more clearly.

I have had the last contraction by leaving him and moving back home across the country. She was so right, I see things very clearly now. She prayed for me during our coaching sessions. Her closeness to Jesus was obvious. Her concern about me was obvious. She is a friend, not just a coach. I thank God for her!